Tips to Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
Writing your own wedding vows is no easy task. Perfecting the right words to say to your loved one in front of an audience can be terrifying and tricky. These simple tips can make this task a little easier.
Start Early. Don’t wait to write your vows until the day before the wedding. This is the time you are the most nervous/excited and you’ll have a really hard time gathering your thoughts. Start at least a month before your wedding or during the time that most of your wedding details are finalized. Writing should be done when you’re in a relaxed, not hurried, frame of mind.
Look for Inspiration. Do research on wedding vows examples or traditional wedding vows and look for ideas from poetry, books, romantic movies, etc. You can incorporate some of these ideas in your personalized vows or just use them as an inspiration.
Create an Outline. Writing an outline makes it easier to organize all of your ideas. Once the outline is built you can fill it in with all of the details. An outline will also help you decide what should and shouldn’t be included in your vows.
Pay Attention to Time. Your vows should get your point across without being too long (around one minute). This gives you plenty of time to express your feelings toward your loved one. Other thoughts can be saved for the reception toast or wedding night.
Practice. Practice. Practice. It’s always important to practice any sort of speech out loud to practice timing and to make sure the words flow. You will already be very emotional on the day of your wedding so you want to make sure you have practiced and are familiar with what you are saying.
Most importantly, remember that writing your vows should come from your heart. Allowing your true feelings to speak for themselves will make your vows come across genuine and heartfelt.